Yesterday in the car:
K: I want a piece of gum.
Me: No, you already had a lolly at Kit's house.
K: Then I won't talk to you ever again.
Me: OK, I'm here if you change your mind.
L started crying at this point because she had sensed a sweet in the offing with no additional work on her part and letting go is hard.
Ralf chimed in with a story of a study someone did with five year olds, which is K's age. They put one marshmallow in front of each child and gave them a choice: eat it now or wait three minutes and get two marshmallows.
Years later they re-interviewed the same kids, now grown up, and found that the ones who could wait were far more successful and happy than the ones who couldn't.
K: You mean if they waited three minutes they got two marshmallows instead of one?
Ralf: That's right.
K: Can we go there now?
This morning while I was drinking my coffee:
L (who is three): Mommy, I want another cookie.
Yes, people, I bribe my kids with cookies in the morning so I can finish my coffee in peace.
Me: Can you wait about three minutes until I finish my coffee? Then I'll get you a cookie.
L: If I wait three minutes I want two cookies.
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